Chris and Jimmy taking a break
Jimmy the Cat, Editorial Supervisor
Proofreading
On alert for computer issues
Supervision is exhausting.
Balanced life of work and play
Catching some rays
Fun with slippers
Welcome to Grief and Pet Loss®.
My name is Christine Jette (pronounced ‘Jetty’). Most people call me Chris. I am a retired registered nurse with a bachelor’s degree in psychology. I worked in a variety of clinical settings including public health (infectious disease), surgical oncology, recovery room, allied health education and elder care. Through the years, I have volunteered for the SPCA, a no-kill cat shelter, and Drumlin Farm, part of the Massachusetts Audubon Society.
I began writing about grief after the death of my mother in 2006. For 12 years I had a general grief site named thegrievingheart.info but I let it go because the old web builder that I was using could not be converted into a secure site. It was time for a change in style and an overhaul of the material. It was time to honor my lifelong love of animals.
The word pet comes from the Middle English word pety meaning small, trivial or insignificant. For centuries, pets were considered inferior to humans. For this reason, some animal rights advocates suggest that we eliminate the word pet from our vocabulary and use the phrase companion animal instead. But pet can also mean cherished, beloved and favored. It is in this sense of love and respect that I use the word throughout this site, but you will find the phrase companion animal, too.
Although I share city life with only cats, I also love dogs. I grew up on a large farm and Border Collies tended the flock. They were intelligent, loyal, playful and endlessly affectionate. I have had the privilege of knowing cats, dogs, horses, a pony, sheep, goats, cows, donkeys, mules, ducks, chickens, a turtle, parakeets, goldfish, and a rabbit. And so, to all creatures great and small, I say thank you for enriching my life.
I play cornet in a community concert band. We stopped rehearsals and public performances for more than a year because of the COVID-19 state mandates. I was happy to return, but I missed making music for the joy of it. We all lost something, or someone, during the pandemic. Our lives and expectations for the future changed in ways we are just starting to understand.
I call Cincinnati my home and I share the ups and downs of life with my husband and cat named Jimmy. He appeared at my back door as a sickly stray kitten on my birthday 15 years ago. I opened the door and he walked into my heart. Best birthday gift ever.
Jimmy is still enjoying life but he has some special needs of a senior cat. I know our years together are drawing to a close and I am grateful every day for the time we have left.
I hope that something here rings true with you and helps to ease the way, if only for a moment. Take what is yours to take from this site and know that I wish you unexpected comfort through all the seasons of your grief.
Thank you for stopping by. Please visit anytime.
Why No Social Media Links?
The answer is time and privacy. I have no social media accounts and there are no Social Share buttons on this site. You are welcome to share content from GriefandPetLoss.com®, but I will not ask you to share.
Once you have lost time, you can never get it back. Active participation in social media takes too much time.
Facebook, now under the corporate name Meta, made its debut in 2004. Many other social media platforms followed. Sophisticated electronic devices can track everything about us. Anything recorded or analyzed can be accessed. Not much is private anymore.
The one thing that I can manage on the Internet is the content of my own website. Because I respect the privacy of grievers, I do not use social media platforms.
Read more about the experience of grief and social media
Arlington Magazine: Grief in the Age of Social Media
Is there a right way and a wrong way to mourn online?
How Social Media has Changed the Way We Grieve
Includes the pros and cons
Grief and Facebook: the good, the bad and the ugly
Social Media and Mental Health
HelpGuide.org: Social Media and Mental Health
How to modify your habits to improve your mood
Yale Medicine: How Social Media Affects Your Teen’s Mental Health: A Parent’s Guide
Setting ground rules and keeping the conversation going is essential.
Verywellmind.com: How 'Doomscrolling' Impacts Your Mental Health—and How to Stop
Digital Assets | Pet Planning
Can My Digital Assets Pass Through My Will?
Digital assets that can and cannot pass through your will
A Plan for Your Digital Assets
What will happen to your online accounts when you die?
ASPCA: Pet Planning | Pet Trusts
Who will care for your pets in the event of your illness or death? Learn how to create a plan now for your pet's secure future.
AI | Algorithms | Fake News
Capitol Technology: How to Spot AI-generated Content: Is It Fact or Fiction?
Generative AI for Health Information: A Guide to Safe Use
Mashable: Algorithms control your online life. Here's how to reduce their influence.
McAfee: How to Spot Fake News in Your Social Media Feed
CNET: Clear Your iPhone's Cache
Keep your iPhone's browser moving fast by clearing your cache every month -- it only takes a few seconds.
“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” Ernest Hemingway
It began in 2020. We are in year five of living with COVID-19. In the US alone, the virus took a staggering number of lives. The pandemic experience prompted change and forced many of us to reconsider our habits and priorities.
COVID-19 now ranks as the tenth most common cause of death in the US, a drop from third in 2020 and 2021 and fourth in 2022.
One thing has not changed: The virus continues to be a source of heartache. The deep private grief caused by loved ones dying from COVID is here to stay.
I am a former public health infectious disease nurse. I do my best to present accurate information from sources that I trust, but I urge you to do your own research.
It is wise to use caution when interpreting the latest study and be wary of information on social media. It may take years before doctors have enough evidence from research to see a full picture of COVID-19.
Vaccine developments and treatment options change as science and research change.
The sites below stay current with the changes or offer relevant insights:
General
Yale Medicine: 3 Things to Know About FLiRT and LB.1, the New Coronavirus Strains
Johns Hopkins Public Health: Understanding the CDC’s Updated COVID Isolation Guidance
The COVID isolation period is shorter and more aligned with other common respiratory viruses.
Assoc. of American Medical Colleges: Are some people immune to COVID-19?
Mayo Clinic: Debunking COVID-19 myths (2024)
Vaccines
What to Know About the Updated 2024-2025 COVID Vaccines
Comparing the COVID-19 Vaccines: How Are They Different?
FDA: It’s a Good Time to Get Your Flu Vaccine
Treatments
13 Things To Know About Paxlovid, the Latest COVID-19 Pill
Good Rx Health: COVID-19 Treatments: An Updated List of Drugs and Medications in Development
Mayo Clinic: Treating COVID-19 at home: Care tips for you and others
Johns Hopkins: Bouncing Back from COVID-19 (printable PDF)
Your Guide to Restoring Movement
Seasonal
Johns Hopkins Infographic: Preventing Flu, COVID-19 and RSV
Long COVID
Verywell Health: What Is Long COVID?
Help Guide: Long COVID Symptoms, Depression, and Help
How to recognize long-haul COVID symptoms and get the help you need.
Psychology Today: Communicating and Feeling Understood: Long-COVID Experience
Strategies to avoid symptom invalidation.
Grief and Healing
Psychology Today: Grief and Growth During the Pandemic
We didn't choose the pandemic, but we can choose how we let it affect the future.
Help Guide: How to Cope with Traumatic Events
Any traumatic event—from personal tragedy to global crisis—can take an emotional toll and cause traumatic stress. But there are ways to regain control of your life.
Sorrow and tragedy will happen to us all — here are 3 strategies to help you cope by Lucy Hone